Vulnerability is not weakness

Why is this true? and we all know it is...

Dr. Brené Brown is going to tell us what to do about it. The Houdini of shame's straight jacket, the guide for 'whole hearted living',  she is sharing her secrets on TED talks (here with Swedish subtitles). Give yourself a moment, press the orange quote. You will not ever be the same. This research is ground breaking and the presentation is riveting........

According to Dr Brown

“When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make,”
 “Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.” "Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change." 

What does that mean for us as humans, professionals, co-workers, parents, partners, healers?

For healers Dr Brown says

'When they teach those folks how to suture they teach them how to stitch their self worth to being all powerful' 

Lets talk about shame, because that is the universal response when we try to cover up the fact that we are simply human. We can not continue to facilitate healing over time if the shame keeps mounting. Eventually we only want to hide in the corner with our secret......sometimes we are most afraid of our colleagues. Watch Brené Brown's second Ted Talk (here also with Swedish sub titels) by pressing on the book or buy the book itself. 

So did you hear the secrets? Can you free yourself from the straight jacket? How about your patients? Can you give them a map?

Blaming / Skuldbeläggande

Blaming and Accountability

Impatience with discomfort and momentary amnesia for one's own 'grit' causes blaming; and blaming makes it almost impossible to actually create this is an important idea I hope to hang onto. Refocus on grit, compassion, patience...and EFFECTIVE accountability.....why do so many good things involve patience with discomfort? When I 'grit' my teeth to persevere, something tightens in me and the discomfort increases. Now to practice 'gritting' without tightening.....feels more like ....?

Click here to see Brene Brown 'On Blame'

So my next question is how does this tie in with my everyday life as a physician, employee and team member?

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Grit; Ihärdighet

Är du ihärdigt? När?  Do you have grit? When?


Angela Lee Duckworth: Key to success? Grit.  To see the video click on the pearl above.  Click here to view the thought provoking NY Times article on the same theme but with different authors. 

Angela Lee Duckworth: Nyckeln till framgång? Ihärdighet. Videon med Svensk text får ni fram genom att klicka på ‘video on grit’ under bilden. Klicka här och kom till NY Times tänkvärda artikel om samma tema.

Curiosity/ Nyfikenhet

Could curiosity be the key to grit? How do we in health care Enable our own curiosity in, and empower our patients to dare be curious about, our mutual suffering and healing? 

Kan nyfikenhet vara nyckeln till ihärdighet? Hur tillåter och utvecklar vi vår egen nyfikenhet som vårdpersonal och patient? Hur uppmuntrar vi nyfikenhet för vårt ÖMSESIDIGa lidande och läkande?

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